Elders are free to talk and enjoy as a child: Aging is a crown of glory and time of heightened mental development despite physical recession.

This  page  is for the elders and all the young people who fear aging.  Take joy--there is nothing to fear, only much to look forward to.  As the brain expands in old age the temporal lobe opens up to eternity and ecstatic witness.  End all fears--the future is only fullness with our culminating perfection at lifes end ( our highest blend).

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Its a cruel cold culture that puts down the older generation through the glorification of youth.  Its not only unfair, it is false because old age is the culmination of life, a crown of glory and a time of heightened mental development.  Near the end the temporal lobes burst open to reveal eternity, and thus eternal wisdom can only be gained from the mentorship of the elder.  We should look forward with glee due to the facts you are about to see.  Everything you have been told--every fear-laden myth you have swallowed whole--is false, for the elder is mentally superior in the sagacious jubilee.  The time of life when physical powers wane mark the beginning of the magnification of mental powers.  It is the fact that we dont know this while simultaneously allowing a sick culture to tell us the opposite which creates the degeneration we see all around.  An ageist culture is a sick culture.  

 

VISION   QUEST   INTO   ELDERHOOD

 

The Vision Quest is an ancient Shamanic rite of passage in which the seeker retreats from civilization, goes to a sacred place in nature and cries for a life vision of purpose.   I took this Vision Quest twenty years ago by leaving society to live in a small desert cabin on 230 acres of wilderness.  This was the happiest time of my life, in total solitude and natural beauty.  I loved the seasons, the times of day and sharing this beauty with five dogs and a cat.  I spent these  years in solitude, fasting, prayer, meditation, writing, studying, biking, working in the yard and taking long walks.  I entered an entirely new reality. 

 

All that pain, all those rebuffs and rejections prime us for leadership!  It was a transition from the old to the new life--an initiation into elderhood, or becoming a sage. By individuating into completion I was preparing early for elderhood but by previously clinging to youthful things I was avoiding completion, the thing I wanted most.   It wasnt until I saw elder mysticismeldering--as an inner journey that I understood human aging as a wonderful culmination which should naturally get better until the very end.

 

SICK  CULTURES  HATE  OLD

 

The cold culture shows a deep-seated fear and loathing of old age, which should be the greatest time of life.  Due to the baby boom the elders are the fastest-growing segment of America with 76 million.  The age wave is a tidal wave, yet it comes at a time when ageism is most intense.  To offset ageism the boomers had better understand that aging is harvest time, the culmination of a lifetime of lessons and the true party.  They should see aging as the badge of success it is, a time of unparalleled inner growth--for only at harvest time do we gain the panoramic vision essential to lead the tribe.  Thus the elder is invaluable to the race, not a liability to it.

 

People enter old age with fear and trembling.  Feeling betrayed by their bodies and defeated by life they expect to suffer from reduced enjoyment, vigor and usefulness.   Their plight is made far worse by the trivialization and minimization by society and familythe signs are all around that they are obsolete, of no value.  How  sad and how false.  The elders are wisdom-keepers for societys well-being by opening up magnified intelligence transmitted as legacy.  This joy crowns an elders life with worth and nobility.  Have you ever noticed their uncanny psychic powers?  They see through walls, theyre our wake-up calls! The notion of sage or elder should replace all negative images while giving us all something to look forward to.  Eldering will release tremendous vitality and vigor into the peak of our  life.  It will be for me, as I see a life of work coming to its culmination and reward.  For the mature, old age is the opposite to boredfor all through history it was the last phase when the saints spirit  soared.

 

Aging is not the problem.  The problem is  the cultural images which tragically guide our lives into fear and panic.  If we have models which are positive, healthy and active we can dramatically expand into a mysterious adventure as we go forward.  Only this time of pure inner richness grows sages healers and prophetsits the most important time of life!

   LESS   MATTER,   MORE  SPIRIT

 

It is physical decline which awakens this elder consciousness of expanded powers.  It is precisely the loss of one which elicits the other.  Lets explore this further, for consciously embracing aging early triggers the process of individuation and completion (eldering)  while avoiding  the pitfalls of later becoming elderly.  The breakdown of the youthful body leads to the breakthrough of the elders higher consciousness.  And so elderhood arises in the context of decline:  When the psyche issues a call to engage in life completion, matter lessens to maximize energy and spirit.  Less matter, more spirit!  Its the icing on the cake, the celebration, the party after a life of labor, pain and utterly being controlled by other people.  Why?  Because less is more!

 

In old age we heal relationships and our pasts, enjoy our achievements and leave a legacy.  The elder can bless all the triumphs and tragedies he came through and re-frame the dreams, disappointments and betrayals into wisdom.  The meaning of the play will now become clear in elderhood, the crowning achievement.

 

NO   ROLE  MODELS

 

The cold modern culture provides no models for aging, so were all uncomfortable with it.  In contrast, elder sagacity or mysticismeldering--rediscovers old age as an achievement to savor and enjoy.  Postmenopausal women who feel invisible in a youthist culture will suddenly become radiant as they release deep-seated tensions.  Rather than remorse over the past, the elder recontextualizes his past through panoramic vision, reframing past mistakes to mine them for wisdom.  The result is a peace, and this is power!  If we avoid distracting (and comparatively boring) worldly amusements and just contemplate we gain a peaceful goldmine of invention and wit as ageist stereotypes are replaced by a deja-vu  of coming attractions.

 

Were all so starved for models that even knowing an expanding elder infects us with enthusiasm.  Its like entering the senior year in excited anticipation of attaining the high values we all  crave. Having grown beyond the drive for personal power, a deeper humanity emerges as harvesting and deep reflection gives us our place in the cosmos.

 

CLING  TO   YOUTH  OR  SELF-COMPLETION?

 

Having no models we either fall into depression and decline or strive to compete with youth.  But if we view age as the gold summit, we feel something very special growing inside and nourish it to harvest the  gold.   We cant stay hooked to rushing around and conquering. Women must drop youthful seduction to attain higher standards:  the dignity of elder beautythus reclaiming the right to age without stigma!

 

When elders identify with early works or looks they end in conflict.  The deep psyche urges us to harvest our lives, not obsess with the outer world.  Staying stuck makes us prey to sadness, bitterness and defeat.  Instead just enjoy this sacred  stage:   relax, listen to the inner  voice, take naps!  All our lives we conformed and catered to the convenience of other people, not the promptings of the inner life.  Society completely ignores our bio-relationship to nature so grow up--go within.  Living to the ebb and flow of this strong force is like ocean going through the veins--this is your own inner nature, so take the reins!  First contemplate, then decide your new agenda for the last and greatest season of lifefor the fine finale may even be flamboyant fame and fortune.

 

ACHIEVEMENT  OK,   ENJOYING  NO-WAY

 

Our culture schools us on achieving, but not enjoying the fruits of our labor.  We were never taught that enjoyment was enough.  Instead its always more: more pleasure, travel, possessions or relationships.  We need the help of mysticism to cultivate calmness and contentment, for this  breaks attachments to the social persona in order to reclaim the True Self we abandoned to socially adapt.  Aging is really a natural monastery stripping away these phony roles, attachments and pleasures and what emerges is a miraculous sense of discovery and  new energy transcending doing in favor of being.  These are the gifts of contemplative old age and I for one aim to enjoy this phase way before it hits.  Fearing it is the pits for on this hard-won  pinnacle wisdom sits. 

 

YOUTH:  NO  TIME  TO  CONTEMPLATE

 

 

When young one is just too busy to cultivate this quiet inwardness spawning mystical experience.  To please  society youth must put the inner journey on hold, shirking contact with the sacred to master skills instead.  Elderhood reconnects to the sacred and takes the universe back in.  Rid of demanding and restrictive roles its like loosening a tight-fitting costume and slipping into cozy pajamas.  I now see naps as the most productive thing I could do, for the higher brain is recharging. Having finally become individualized we are entitled to do our own thing without adapting to anyone elses standards.  What a wonderful period of life--only the rich can afford this life of leisure when  young!

 

ELDERS   MUST   SPEAK  OUT

 

Once whole the elders duty is to infuse the public with higher values, like telling  the powers-that-be they should be ashamed behaving like children playing games of dominance.  As world-mother youll see extraordinary things as people bow down  showering you with gifts.  Thats how starved they are for role models.  As you transcend silly fears youll grow to full stature and speak out with greater authority.  At your age youre sure  of your highest identity and beliefs--so speak publicly!  Just hold your head up high and tell the simple truth, for to cower before youth is simply uncouth.   Become a sagetheyll line up to your booth.

 

As elders speak from the authority of the God-made True Self, something wonderful occurs.  Listeners re-discover inner knowing--that heart knowledge that links them to nature and the world.  As elders speak, armor drops and thus they maintain the consciousness of the whole tribe.  When youth turns to the elder they are yearning for something more--that vast unexplored territory residing in a sage who is only now  peaking  in old age.  When old we can create a  destiny from choice, not expectations.

 

ELDERING  IS  TRUE  SUCCESS

 

Elderhood is a great success.  The sage is charged with the evolutionary task of guiding society--what a joy, we deserve it!  You must inspire society to replace its shortsighted bottom-line mentality with the natural:  spirit, nature and God.  As sage-ing takes root in your heart youll see a glorious future awaiting you, no matter what your age.  Its when the physical fades that the fire alights from within until in our eighties we become most passionate, intense, flaming with a wild life beyond expression--a swelling clarity that expands into lives with passion and mystery.  Our spirits will be questing, not resting.  Our consciousness will grow, not slow.  Elderhood is a quantum leap into the second life of spiritual realization.

 

LIFE   STARTS  AT   SIXTY

 

Sixty plus is Gods gift to humanity.  No need to compete and be liked.  Un-caged energy releases into pure capacities restrained in youth.  No time for trivia--we begin to create.  Sages balance the inward ascetic with the outward human  by expressing the True Spirit in the mundane world whose only hope is growing beyond the materialism which is only misery.

 

We are the culmination of a huge life process.  If we unfold we open to incredibly higher being:  the secret, mysterious, unique greatness of the True Self seeking expression.  If in a nurturing environment with  just God or other expanders we will experience a brain spurt linked to spirit.  This happens in adolescence but emerging sexuality smothers it--then such a spurt into higher evolution is mistaken for libido and the spiritual is misplaced into sexual/social channels.  The spiritual quest goes underground until now in elderhood.

 

MIND   SHARPENS   AS   BODY   DECLINES

 

Old age is a fascinating and  exciting time of exploration, mysterious adventure and spiritual discovery.  As the body gets tired the mind gets sharper.  The challenge is to risk all frames of reference and outer props opening the mind to higher realms.  Lifelong learning is the purpose of our species and when we stop we defeat the plan.  Learning may peak in our late eighties when we contact a giant spring of skill, giving spectacular demonstrations, and the new habit of unlimited potential evokes new skills.  With limitless possibilities we are open to constant surprise and anticipation--because of our age.

 

OTHER-DIRECTED  LIFE  WAS  STRIFE

 

As you look back were you not lived  by family, friends and fickle society?  Were you not kept by jail-guards watching your every move?  Did you not curtail your every natural expression, just to adapt?  Did you not truncate parts of self just to fit in?  What miseryI remember it well.  Now we are self-directed flowering spirits in an inner search for God.  By our detachment we promote a direct inner experience of Him and the divine.  Conventional religion fills the need for social belonging but not necessarily contemplation and harvesting which reduces the ego as it opens the spirit.  How different from the safe and secure social-religious identity--without access to the real depths people cling to religious brand-names, past fames and mind-games.

                                        

                              CELLS   REJUVENATE

 

Through the inner journey cells are rejuvenated and aging is retarded.  If operating as usual--in superficial, social and secular thinking--we speed up the aging of cells.  But as we move to the silent transcendent, mental activity stops and cells revive. I can sure feel this change when relaxing after a stressful work or social situation.  Solitude in silence brings this instant shift to the revelatory rewards of the right-brain.  From too much left the elder must refrain, or become insane.

 

Those dismissed as old are actually agents of human evolution, for throughout history the elder symbolizes the unique flowering of humanity:  a rare once-in-a-time event.  In India the sage functions as father confessor and spiritual  guide.  These flowering sages have revelations and peak experiences we can all have when older:  mystical perception, creative inspiration, scientific discovery, invention and extrasensory perception.  Intuition is nonlinear, bringing together simultaneous fields in knowledge and perceptionleaping way ahead of slow-moving logic by showing the big picture instead.  This instantaneous knowing brings the contagion of joy, whereas everyday logic deadens like lead.   Everyday man is concerned with what someone said while the psychic-intuitive sage gives them simple truth so theyre  truly fed.

 

GREAT  ARTISTS  DO  BEST  AT  80

 

History shows many elders producing great works of beauty and science in later years.  Frank Lloyd Wright did his greatest work at seventy, Picasso at 90.  Freer air blows in later years--what joy and vitality when free of society (no more tears).  The stakes are less, intimidating jailers are gone and there are new reserves in courage, wisdom and open fields of experiment.  The creative life is far more  possible later as intuition connects us to the natural environment:  a much higher life, free of strife--the power of Gods wife.  Yes God will support you with power and energyif free of human societyfor He knows you are physically weaker while having His work to do.   More power is infused into a Majority of One  because youre not with crew.  How to get to Gods power:  become weak.  Through you just let Him speak, for he always gives energy where needed (without leak).

 

ELDER    BRAIN    EXPANSION

 

The most primitive brain is the reptilian,  dealing with basic survival--it is territorial and habit-driven.  The next area is the limbic brain which relates us to the social world--it is rhythmic (hypnotic), ritualized activity hooking us to the herd.  The third layer is the neocortex of intuition exploding suddenly into communion with God.  It is the social world and habits (we use to distract us from aging) that prevents the opening of this last marvelous goldmine.

 

The frontal lobes of the neocortex have highest intuition, creativity and a cornucopia of magnified perceptions awaiting the elder who opens to it.  This interior universe is vast and infinite.  Moreover, the temporal lobes of the neocortex are associated with paranormal and psychic experiences.  But if you drag the past into the present youll be impervious to the fulfillment, vitality and pure delight of your increasing unfoldment.  No matter what age the expanding elder faces the future optimistically.  But if at eighty his consciousness is stuck at 40 hell stagnate and suffer a haunting despair. Be advised, for you see it all aroundfrom their hearts and minds no sound, like their only hope is beneath the ground!   There is no wisdom here, only confound.   Their only thoughts are of the past, when big in town.

 

BOOMERS  FIXATED  BY  YOUTH

Thats So Uncouth

 

Although baby boomers have grown through meditation, when it comes to aging theyre still fixated by youth culture.  Its to these peers that I speak:  Its so dangerous clinging to youthful things--it prevents the sagacity to lead the tribe and individuate, the whole meaning of eldering.  Thanks to natural diet and exercise,  boomers are the fastest-growing elder group in America and the over-sixties are growing twice as fast as the rest of the population.  So become an enlightened sage when older, the esteemed member of your growing tribe!  Talk to youth, but especially to peersmake them seers, banishing fears, drying their tears.  Tell them:  Evolutionary aging balances physical decline with mental flowering and skills--as one recedes the other blossoms and watch their reaction (awesome).

 

ELDERS   ACROSS   TIME   AND   SPACE

 

In America old is like being a leper. But in India old is an achievement of respect and recognition, as people cherish wrinkles and look forward to gray hair.  Some exaggerate their age to gain greater respect, seeing old age as a time to detach from obligations and just ponder and enjoy.  The Japanese see old age as a source of prestige with a national holiday called honor the aged day.  Native Americans see elders as wisdom-keepers safeguarding tribal survival.

The Bible is lavish in praise of elders as gray hair is a crown of glory and wrinkles a mark of distinction.  Thou shall rise up and honor the face of the old man.  But the Greek world showed the gerontophobia (fear of age) from negative stereotypes that we see today.  They valued youthful heroism, physical perfection and beauty--and aging was seen as a catastrophe and divine punishment. How myopic and tragic! Elder-status was raised in ancient Rome where their wise counsel carried great legal authority in the senate:  young men for action, old men for counsel.  Cicero wrote old age is respectable when it asserts itself and is not enslaved to any one.  I admire a young man with an old man in him, and an old one with a young man in him--the man old in body but never in mind.  To attain this state he must have sound nutrition, exercise, sexual moderation and an active mental life of reflection.  The bible-based Puritans saw old age as a sign of Gods pleasure, divine election and a badge of supernatural sanctity.  At New England town meetings it was not the rich but the elders who were given places of honor as repositories of knowledge and traditional values.

 

ELDERS  ARE  PATHFINDERS

 

Throughout history elders were the beloved pathfinders, luring  us to old age in anticipation of powerful usefulness.  Tribal elders made their imprint all through the Near East and Mediterranean cultures.  To be called old man in ancient Israel was honored and wielded enormous religious and judicial power.  To the ancients, old men were natural leaders using wisdom for problem-solving from the deep unconscious.  The elders  reveal our potentialswhat can possibly be more important than that?  With no models triggering these archetypal depths we are now lost in this world.   Is it any wonder the degradation of morals, literacy and familiesthe utter hopelessness, drug addiction, divorces, fatherless homes?  Society needs the elders to sustain it at its highest peakthe elders are the only check on certain degeneration.

 

TRADITIONAL  AGING  IS  TRANSMITTING  true CULTURE

 

In primitive societies elders withdrew from everyday life to just think and transmit highest culture.  But now, sadly, this  social identity is stripped away and  lost through retirement.  In literature we see the archetypal elder King Lear divested of power, living  a wretched old age and descending into madness.  Spiritual eldering provides the solution:  an otherworldly celebrational spirituality, healing the split between spirit and matter and affirming sacred lifenot the mundane, superficial, carnal materialism we see today.   Its the difference between a boldly flamboyant array and the horror of old folks homes (thinking thats ok).  Its the difference between exciting life and optimistic anticipation of increasing unfoldment to the very end, and the terror of turning thirtythe current trend.   Baby-boomers, unite!  We are the majority so start the eldering revolution nowwont you, my friends?

 

TRADITIONAL  CULTURES  LOVE  THE  OLD

 

All the worlds spiritual traditions have models of realized elders.  The roshi in Zen, in Buddhism the lama, in Tibetan Buddhism the sheikh, in Islam the rebbe--all see aging as the phase of ultimate self-knowledge.  For the Hindus, four ashramas map the changing spiritual needs of the human life cycle, culminating in the True Self and service to society.  So the Indians think of life as a four-stage spiritual journey:   Brahmacharya:   gaining the intellectual and moral tools for adult life.  Grihasta: marrying, having children, being social and working  for wealth.  Vanaprastha:  detaching from family and social identity to pursue the spiritual.  And in the final stage sannyasa one transcends all limited identification with family, religion, race and nation.  As wondering single renunciates they become citizens of the world devoted to self-realization, spiritual teaching and selfless service to society.  We can remain in family and community and still detach from social roles and deepen the contact with God.   Do it and receive love from a nation famished for elder models!

 

THE   INNER   JOURNEY   OF   ELDERING

 

Today we see the ageism of ancient Greece, every bit as offensive and dangerous as racism and sexism.  It discourages the elder influence, so like any downtrodden group they sequester into retirement communities to commiserate together and strengthen their shoddy identity.  The movement called successful aging sees the solution in physical health but leaves out the spiritual altogether:  In a one-sided drive to alter, reverse or control the aging process it just impoverishes it more by trying to  restore youth rather than appreciating aging as a wonderfully superior stage of the human experience.  The only  solution is the inner journey! Go inside, ride the tide and  become cosmic, bonafide. 

IT SHOULD BE  EASY

Not Make Us Queasy

 

Because we are not contemplative in our productive years, many face a painful cold abyss in unstructured retirement.  Lets see retirement as the Indians do:  a spiritual vocation while being on vacation--something prepared for in middle age by becoming contemplative, artistic, studious, sensitive and gentle.  Seek this and youll be supported from both our own depths and  on high.   As we detach from social and professional identities the whole universe  rushes in to support our No answers while Yes brings relapse into old ruts.  By doing inner work when young we wont disorient or panic when outer props go later, and   thank God they do!  For were brand new--past props cant enter the stew.  This wonderful apex must remain true, fearlessly and powerfully with God through-and-through.  Does this not thrill you too?

 

HARVESTING  IS  WONDERFUL

 

In traditional cultures harvesting a life in old age is easy, but in  ours it is painfully difficult.  Harvesting means:  gathering the fruits of a life and enjoying them.  It can be from within as quiet self-appreciation or without through completion of the Creative Act with honor, respect and recognition.  But without eldering consciousness our own gerontophobia destroys the harvest.  They put you down for your numerical age rather than your brilliant ideas.   Don't let this happen!  The cure-all is to exchange secular for sacred powermaking us shamans, healers and priests.  In the new context of aging, elders have a wild almost prankster-like quality which sees the humor in all situations.  Like Buddha they laugh at everything they see or think!   This new reality is like  going from shabby cotton to mink, but only if elders are respected (not rejected) do they stay in the pink.

 

ELDERING  IS  COSMIC  TRANSFORMATION

 

Carl Jung developed  elder psychology in terms of individuation, the process of becoming the complete human being of our destiny.  In the afternoon we cant live by mornings program but rather turn inward to reconnect with the self which was  silenced by our social slots or slovenly sins.  This revealed cosmic  being is our personal center speaking through dreams, visions and images.  A human being would not grow to 70 or eighty if longevity had no meaning for the species--later life has great significance of its own, not merely a pitiful appendage.  Whoever carries youth into old age pays through soul-damage, for spirituality must take precedence when energy wanes and friends and family are  lost.  Its the  spiritual outlook cureso make the grandkids call you mam and sir!  And never envy youth (the false lure) for despite the glorified image there is much trouble there (in this evil age its often impure).  You are much better off here,  in the radiant cosmic elder tour.

 

LIFE  IS  EIGHT  TURNING  POINTS

 

Erik Erikson saw life as a sequence of eight turning points which can turn to good or bad results.  Resolving each step leads to new growth and maturity while failure at any point ends in neurosis and stunted growth at that level.  In the final stage of ego integrity vs. despair, completion and self-acceptance is achievedand it is this which offsets the physical  decline.  Wisdom is the acceptance of our one and only life as something which had to be by necessity and permitted no substitutions.  And to think we spent our lives in shame and self-doubt for the very destiny that had to be!  Acceptance without shame makes us handsome, ageless blueprints made by God, while shame and guilt makes us aging deformitiesa clod.

 

FAIRY  TALES  AND  ARCHETYPES

 

Fairy tales give insights into youth and elder psychology, reflecting the different concerns of the emerging growing personality:  separating from parents, struggling for world placement, making commitments to spouse and career.  The elder tales symbolize the tasks of the second half of life:  not growing old but of growing through transcendence  and knowledge of self and God.  Elder tales begin with the old man in isolation and barrenness.  Then by miracle he rediscovers the magic:  by accepting his losses of family, friends, fickle society  and its fun he is transformed as he confronts issues repressed since youth--the dark unknown side called the shadow.  As he breaks free of society and faces this shadow he gains emancipated innocence.  He comes together whole an ageless child--by having faced what he had always denied and by detaching from the chaos of the social world.  As the age wave continues we elders must put the spiritual central to our lives.    To not do so is like being cut with knives for the messages are everywhere that we are obsolete, of no valuea fiction, a pack of lies!   But spiritually we are the highest achievement, essential, transcendentas high as the skies.  The cosmic elder  is way beyond cries, since he know his source--its eternity and heaven he sees with his eyes.

 

THANATOS:  FACING   DEATH   BRINGS   LIFE

 

It is the presence of death which deepens our appreciation of life and prepares us for harvesting.   The more we embrace mortality as a call to life completion the more anxiety turns to awe, thanksgiving and appreciation.  People facing death end their days in zest and joy.  All through life they spent energy avoiding reminders of mortality, but this very avoidance saps vitality and hope.  All experience of life loses clarity and depth in this denial, which hurts: Theres always a free-floating anxiety unsuccessfully drowned out through frenetic activity, entertainment, conquests or obsession with youth.  Having de-repressed the fear of death that energy is now released and reclaimed.  Wow!  Now we feel buoyed up as streams of creative energy courses through the body, mind and nervous system.  By facing what usually depressed and terrified we feel lighter, freer and more alive as a shift in attention makes us aware of how precious life is.  Then we can accept ourselves, love and lose the anxiety making us grasp at power, wealth and fame to feel confirmed.  Then we can truly see the immaturity of youth  (often so uncouth).  And to think we wanted to be like them or that we actually tried to get their approval!   When we face death even a wonderful humor emerges.   What a relief transcending the boring, mundane, material world of flesh and games and overnight gained-and-lost fames and flames!  We come in and go out alone and everyone else is now irrelevant.

 

FREUD:  SEX  (STRIVING)  OR  DEATH  (SILENCE)

 

Freud saw two forces driving the human experience:  libido the life instinct and thanatos the death instinct.  Life is a ceaseless struggle between these two forces.  Libido surges with vitality, seeking pleasure and experience while thanatos longs for silence devoid of all striving and conflict.  Libido yearns for sex and creative activity while thanatos drives for death and the cessation of all activity.  Freuds view ignores the spiritual for his thanatos is seen as the psyches bleakest force especially since our culture  denies death.  Its a serious split since our bodies know about dying and at one point are totally committed to it and yet the culture abhors and avoids it.  It deals comfortably with libido expansion and achievement yet panics at contraction, silence and inwardness--the domain of thanatos.   Eldering work--the inner journey--embraces and ennobles the death instinct removing its mask and welcoming its guidance to a much larger lifethe comfortable happy existence of mere contemplation and relaxation.  Thanatos is the messenger of transcendent love and wisdomthis is God.  But how could a culture hating death and aging ever accept  the inward life of the saint and mystic?  It cannotit makes it impossible.

 

DEATH   IS  THE  MYSTIC

 

Thanatos is synonymous with the ego transcendence and enlightenment portrayed by Hindus.  Yogis break attachment with desire to attain samahi--a totally suspended transcendent state of thanatos.  Sufis practice fana, a blissful state of non-self.  Buddhists enter nirvana, a desireless state of silence.  They all teach there is a natural inborn reflex to seek quiescence as a balance to outgoing energy.  Centrifugal complements the centripetal energies.  Thanatos inward force brings self-actualization and completion.  We are detached from the more indiscriminate social world to extreme selection in relationships and projects attuned to this emerging self:  a time to rest and reflect, a time to act and decide, a time to become inspired, a time for creative action and (most importantly)--a time to be very careful in choosing associates (not less careful because youre lonely). Libido and thanatos are bipolar electrical forces with two settings:  on/off, life/death, activity/rest.  When we are young we make a mark on the world.  When we grow old we gradually experience less energy and seek inwardness.  The off switch is exactly what brings the completion, contemplation and  carefully selected actions and friends--all stamped with the seal of growing uniqueness.  The OFF is what makes us energetic, attractive, glowing cheekbone-carved older specimens that the younger generation is so  grateful for, looks up to and tries to emulate.  The ON is what makes us embarrassing caricaturesbaby Janes bringing ridicule and rejectionplastic surgerys election,  a lost affection, a useless dusty  antique collection.

 

THANATOS    IS   INDIVIDUATION

 

Thanatos is the urge to individuate--cutting loose false bonds in later life.  Aging people should know they are no longer conquering and expanding but inexorably contracting.  For youth, self-preoccupation is a dangerous sin  but for an elder it is a necessary duty!   Thanatos creates contemplation by limiting libidinal activity.  It replaces quantity for quality of experience by insisting we deepen our awareness when we cant expand or conquer any more. But modern drugs like Viagra prevents this natural joyful inwardness--with age libido should shift from sex to mentoring and harvesting and other ways to generate like preserving a legacy through writing and teaching.  We are now passing on wisdom, not propagating the species.

 

THANATOS  MEANS  COMPLETION,  NOT  DEATH

 

Libido is the instinct to begin, while ignoring meaning and wisdom.  Its only interested in selfs experience--exerting and establishing self in the world.  As libido sows seeds, thanatos collects them and  brings them as fruits to the harvest.  As its more interested in closure and meaning thanatos is the completing instinct.  Only by facing my death could my books come out for thanatos  does not always seek physical death but acts as a magnet drawing together and arranging patterns of meaning from our lives.  This may mean death or completion of a lifes work with decades left to enjoy the bounty coming from it.

 

 

When thanatos first appears we panic---exercise madly to compete with youth, redouble our work to prove our worth or have cosmetic surgery--anything but come to terms with thanatos which destroys youths idols.  When mid-life dissatisfaction appears this is thanatos.  Having no training for it we mistake the cue-to-completion as a call to death.  Not sothe opposite is true: 

Thanatos marks the appearance  of the enlightened self behind the social persona.  If we accept it we simply start spending more good time with loved ones, take long walks in nature, play good music and just ponder while looking out the window to the mountain vistas and starlit skies at night.  As for me Im looking forward to old ageit ends the fight, solves the blight, means Im finally right and higher than a kite.   Baby-boomers unite!

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ELDER MYSTICISM

Ageless Cornucopia

 in PSYCH RAP

 

With age people  fall into depression,  compete with youth or hit the vermouth.  How uncouth,  for it's not based on truth.  If you see age as the apex of life, you'll start harvesting gold.   No more rushing or conquering but much higher standardsthe dignity of elder beauty.  It's our duty (even if fruity). 

Resting on youthful laurels breeds conflictits time to harvest the inner not obsess with the outer.  Its so much fun ending the run but staying stuck is running amuck.  We should  enjoy this sacred stage, listen to the inner voice and take naps (not to prevent collapse  but to illumine new maps).

 

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In youth we catered to the convenience of crazy cronies but now were really alive, no more jive.  Enjoy your new bio-relationship with nature:  grow upgo within, it's your most exciting time (no "has-been").  

Its a prelude to heaven when well  enjoy such bliss again.   Were getting ready, for life is just a shabby porch to a magnificent mansiona mass of trials before the smiles. 

To live in the flow of this powerful force is like ocean going through the veins--this is your inner nature: youve finally got the reins.

The worldly no-brains put you in chains (constant rains) but now you can really explain and that's what trains (will be your remains). To enable this power just contemplate in readiness for  the fine finale of flamboyant fame and true fortune.

 

    CLING  TO   YOUTH,   OR  SELF-COMPLETION [TEACHING]?

 

Wouldn't you rather teach, then be taught?  This is eldership, the stage we avoid in fear of the void--for we think getting old cannot be enjoyed.  Its these feelings and fears with which society has toyed.  For although it feels good to take control, due to age-phobia  that's the stage we skip--until we die, a silly collapsed ship.

If you're an elder stuck in adolescence  now's the time to find your essence.  The youthist culture is outrageous  in its down-putting of the elder who is sagacious.   Due to youthism many  sin (to bad they turn) when it's really True Selfhood--sagacity--for which they yearn.

This chapter is for the elders and youth who fear aging.  Take joy--there is nothing to fear  only much to anticipate as   your culminating  perfection  leads the tribe through elder mysticism.

 

FOR THE SUPERIOR MAN:   YOU NEED CHARACTER

 There are two ways to age: one like

the herd and one like  the sage

 

AIts a sick culture that disdains aging and glorifies youth, for old age is the culmination of life and a crown of glory as the brain opens to  eternity--and thus eternal wisdom comes only from elders.  Out of this brain spurt  comes our genius trait  yet the culture sees it as third-rate  (mean fate).  

You should look forward with glee for the facts you're about to see, for eldering is  a sagacious jubilee. This later phase when the physical wanes is precisely when the mental magnifies. Just as one is inexorably  contracting the mind is ever-expanding.

It's only the cultural view of age  which creates it as a bad stage, like waiting for the end  in a cage.  But now  we're on the right page as  with 76 million baby boomers its becoming  a world rage.

              

  VISION   QUEST :  ELDERHOOD  

 

The Vision Quest is a retreat to nature for a vision of lifes purpose.   I did this 20 years ago, leaving civilization for a desert cabin in total solitude and natural beauty.

 These years have been my  happiest of my life for free of all  distractions I could just love the seasons, the times of day, and sharing such  beauty with four  dogs and a cat. 

I have spent these  years in daily fasting, prayer, meditation, writing and walking while  entering an entirely new reality--eldering, or  becoming a sage.  At a young age  I escaped the cage, and having lost the fear of aging  I love this stage.  

By clinging to youthful things I was avoiding completion (what I wanted most)  but by opening to  elder mysticism  I saw it just gets better until the end.    I feel five,  enjoying each moment  as a child (no more strive). 

After a life of stress I feel so mild--having overcome the ageist traps,  life is  wild: Transcending culture,  what a relief--spending days  floating like a leaf! 

I look forward to tomorrow  for if the  past is gone, no more sorrow.  To hanker over youth with such clarity to enjoy is missing out on elder sagacity to employ.  I anticipate more as it just gets better, this ever-changing phantasmagoria of the elder. 

No drug could duplicate this joy, the elders  magic reality toy.  But Im not going to wish my life awayits too good to miss,  this  fantastic day.  Did I appreciate life when young?  Not at allit took years of pain before enjoying  this  fun.

 

   SICK  CULTURES  HATE OLD 

 

Elders number 76 million just when cruel ageism is most intense.  After reading this chapter I hope the boomers see aging as harvest time, the culmination of lifes  lessons,  the true party and  the badge of success it is--a tremendous brain spurt of  panoramic vision essential to lead the tribe. 

The elder is invaluable to the race--not a liability to it--but  people enter old age with fear and trembling. 

Feeling betrayed by their bodies and defeated by life they expect to suffer and feel useless,  minimized  by society and family.  How  sad and false, for elders are the wisdom-keepers through  magnified intelligence  crowned with worth and nobility. 

Have you not noticed their uncanny psychic powers?  They see through walls, theyre our  wake-up calls.  The notion of " sage" releases vivacious vitality and vigor as we see our lifes work coming to its culmination and reward. 

For the sage, old age is the opposite to bored.  For all through history it was in this  last phase that the saints spirit  soared.   Aging  isn't the  problem. Its the cultural images which  guide us into panic! 

So we should acclaim this mysterious adventure growing sages, healers and prophets.  The enlightened elder sees this life as a mere porch opening to heaven, so we  have  much to anticipate, dont you agree?  The elder enters a magic land  and its all for free.

 

   LESS   MATTER,   MORE  SPIRIT 

 

It is physical decline which triggers brain expansion  (enlightened sagacity) and knowing this should remove the  pitfalls of becoming "elderly."  The breakdown of youth brings the breakthrough of sagacious majesty  as matter lessens to maximize energy and spirit. 

Less matter, more spirit.  Its the icing on the cake--the celebration, the true party after a life of labor, pain and utterly being controlled by other people.  It's  a time to  heal relationships and our pasts, enjoy our achievements and leave a legacy. 

No matter what happened the elder can now bless his past (tragedy or triumph) and mine it  for wisdom.  The meaning of the play will now become clear--so no more fear, youre becoming a  seer. 

The culture provides few models for "elder mysticism" but sagacity is  as an achievement to enjoy.  Older women feeling obsolete (invisible) in youth culture become  radiant as they  review  the past through panoramic visionmining their (many massive) mistakes for wisdom.

 The result is peace and power, so cut distractions and just start contemplatingcan you stop everything and just enjoy this hour? 

Soon you'll become a goldmine of invention and wit--it's  so good you'll never  quit.  To all around  you're a perfect fit for you're at the top of your game (as good as it gets). You're a hit  (not the pits)  for in you wisdom sits. 

Ignore the sick culture who on you spits (wanting to commit) for you're more than legit.  Now just  speak out--no need for permits--and to God submit  so through you He can transmit.  People are so starved for models you'll infect  them with joy (well-lit)  to find their place in the cosmos (close-knit).

 LESS  IS  MORE

Show More Out the Door

 

TIn the west were taught to achieve  not  merely enjoy.  Youth sees more as more--more pleasure, possessions or relationships--but   mysticism is less but more: calm contentment, dissolving the image to reclaim the true self we hid to socially adapt. 

How trapped: having to maintain an image the self was slapped, sagacity untapped, brain growth capped--but now it's unwrapped for all to see, and glory be!  It's truly being free--for aging  is a natural monastery stripping away phony roles and the result is the jubilance of  being rather than doing.  

You'll be cooing for sagacious mysticism is fantastic--so look forward before it hits.  Fearing it is the pits  for on this hard-won  pinnacle wisdom sits.    Youth is too busy for mysticismpleasing society means shirking the sacred  to master skills instead.  

But once you look ahead,  such competition you will  dread.  It was  from all that  I fled (to enjoy the panoramic spread) for to me city life and youthful lusts  were worse than being dead. 

Sagacious eldering  reconnects to the sacred  by banishing these loud, glittering distractions and demanding roles--its like loosening a tight costume and slipping into cozy pajamas (high goals: no controls). 

Naps are most productive for the higher brain is recharging to do it's own thing like being king--if to youth we no cling. If it's with destiny you have your  fling  your  words are truth that rings as natural as  a bird  sings.  To our steps, a spring--life's end is like  spring. Only  the rich can afford this  leisure when  young (getting old is our highest zing).

 

   ELDERS   MUST   SPEAK  OUT 

 

he sages duty is to infuse higher values into the public  like castigating childish power games.  As world-parent they'll  shower you with gifts for giving them lifts. 

Youth tends  over cliffs (too swift with attention-shifts) so show them you're not stiffs:  speak out with authority (more with time, even in a rhyme). 

 At your age  youre sure  of your beliefs so hold your head up high  and tell the simple truth.  To cower before youth is just uncouth  but as a sage theyll line to your booth.  Link listeners through the hearttheyll open to nature and the cosmos, for a start.

 As elders speak, armor dropsand the result is tribal consciousness (feeling on top),  the end of energy drain (stop), the overcoming of foes (plop) and the gaining of riches (a crop). Or would you rather die before death (flop)? The  vast territory in the sage peaks in age  so people will  gain if   with  you they engage.  What a high wage  for the elder is the gauge.

 When old  we create our  destiny from choice, not people's silly expectations.  What joy--we deserve it, for as  the  physical fades the fire alights until the eighties are the most passionate and mysterious.  It makes me delirious--so happy, yet serious.  When I remember my youth I think of controllers so imperious and wrong living deleterious.

 I must confess I was a mess: prone to excess, to people-obsess, to angrily express yet with  a desire to impress (so filled with stress I lacked finesse).  But I digress--now I have noblesse (true success) with a new address:  God's caress.  He doesn't press--He just wants to bless.   

 

Sixty plus is Gods gift to humanity because one doesn't try (compete) to be liked.   Un-caged energy becomes pure brilliance:  no time for trivia, we begin to create.  Sages bring great relief  by disdaining miserable materialism in pursuit of the  mysterious inner world.

This brain spurt occurs in  adolescence but then is  blocked by social/sexuality--the spiritual was submerged until now  as  the  sharpened mind  begins to explore with excited fascination. 

The risk of this higher opening, of course, is losing outer propsgood, for theyre all wet mops.  Lifelong learning peaking at ninety  is our species purpose--we can either look forward with glee or stop (stagnate) with depression or a  drinking spree.

 It is releasing our hold on society which contacts this giant spring bringing skillful demonstrations which in turn evoke  new skills. Are you ready for these thrills, feeling limitless because of  your age?  It just gives me chills  as I look out to the valleys and hills.  I won't take alcohol, drugs or  pills--for the elder that  kills.

 

As you look back were you not lived  by family, friends and fickle society?  I was, and it was a miserable existenceI thought Id go mad: always feeling had, thinking people were bad.

 Did you feel kept by jail-guards watching your every move?  Did you not curtail every natural expression just to fill  their groove?

In having something to prove it's God who was  removed  but now sagacious I've more than improved and so to you--the boomer--I behoove to reflect on this matter:   Did you not truncate parts of self just to fit in?  What miseryI remember it well.  Detachment is pure relief for gone forever is the energy-thief. 

I thank God the past is over.  But  many elders feeling empty  join  "safe and secure" social hall religion.  Rather than mere contemplation  they're still seeking identity, preventing true serenity.  Ageism is obscenity (treating the aged as non-entity) so they "join" seeking amenity.

They cramp life  with time schedules, bragging that "to rest is to rust".   But for  elder mystics  rest is a  must. Sagacity won't alight  by rushing and clinging  to  religious brand-names, past fames and mind-gamesthe maimed brain  goes  lame.

 

  CELLS    REJUVENATE 

 

Sagacious solitude rejuvenates cells and retards aging while the silly superficial  social slot   speeds it all up.  As we move to the silent transcendent, stress  stops and cells revive. 

I can feel this change when relaxing after worksilent solitude is an  instantaneous shift to the revelatory right-brain.  From too much left the elder must refrain or go  insane. 

 Elder mystics are  unique human flowerings--rare, once-in-a-time events.  In India this sage is guide and confessor,  manifesting the peak experiences open to us all: mystical creativity, science discovery, invention. 

His intuition integrates all fields in the big picture (leaping way ahead of slow-moving logic).  Panoramic vision is the contagion of joy while left-brain logic deadens like lead:   portraying  what someone said rather than the  simple truth instead (truly being fed). 

 

Historically elders did their best work late in life: Frank Lloyd Wright did his best at seventy, Picasso at 90.  Freer air blows in later yearsthats joy and vitality when free of society (no more tears).  The stakes are less and intimidating jailers are gone so up comes the new reserves of courage, wisdom and experiment (the dawn). 

Now its all possible:  the creative life  free of strife as Gods wife. Our weakness attracts His strength--for He knows were weak  while having His work to do (more power He  infuses because we're without crew).  How to get to Gods power:  become weak--through you, just let Him speak.  He gives energy where needed  without leak.

 

   ELDER    BRAIN    EXPANSION 

 

IThe primitive reptile brain is for survival--it is territorial and habit-driven.  The next area is the limbic relating us to the social world--it is rhythmic (hypnotic) and ritualized.  The third layer is the neocortex of divine intuitiona marvelous goldmine, and the frontal lobes of the neocortex  are the highest: a vast and infinite cornucopia of magnified perceptions just waiting for the elder to open it. 

God has spoken it, so nurture these  paranormal  (psychic) experiences.  If you drag the past into the present youll be impervious: if you're eighty stuck at 40 your stagnation will haunt with despair. You see it all around: from their hearts and minds, no sound (like their only hope is beneath the ground).  

There is no wisdom here. only confound.   Their only thoughts are of the past, when  big in town (the human  pound).  Thanks to health fads  boomers are the  fastest growing group  but despite their meditation they arent  saging but still fixated with youth. 

Its the Howard Sterns phenomenon: men pushing sixty acting silly, chasing the pixy and other things  risky.  To my prideful peers I speak: Its dangerous clinging to youthful things--wouldn't you rather lead the tribe, so their soul sings?

 Grow up (go within)   then talk to  peersmake them seers,  banish their fears, dry their tears.  Tell them:  As the body declines, the mental fills  with  skills.  As one recedes, the other blossoms. This will be your greatest moment  (itll just be awesome).

 

  ELDERS  ACROSS  TIME  AND  SPACE 

 

n America  the word old is like leper.  But in Japan or  India, old  is a recognized  achievement: Cherishing wrinkles and gray hair men exaggerate their age to gain respect,  as old age is the   time to detach from obligations and just ponder and enjoy. 

In the bible elders are praised, as  gray hair is a crown of glory and wrinkles a  distinction.  But the Greeks were  gerontophobic (like us)--adoring  youthful heroism, body perfection and beauty while viewing old age as catastrophic.    Elder-status was raised in Rome where aged sagacity had legal authority in the senate:  young men for action, old men for counsel. 

Cicero thus wrote old age is respectable only when it asserts itself, not enslaved to anyone: old in body but never in mind.  The Puritans saw age as Gods pleasure--it wasnt the rich but the elders who had the front row in town meetings. 

To the Indians elders were wisdom-keepers ensuring the tribes  survival.  Boomers:  Id say we need a revival.  Try it:  give up uncouth youth and just marvel--though theyll think youve lost your marble youll be without rival.

 

TRADITIONAL  ELDERS  ARE  PATHFINDERS

 

All through history elders were pathfinders. In all traditional cultures they were powerfully useful:   The Roshi in Zen Buddhism, the lama in Tibetan Buddhism, the Heikh in Islam, the Rebbe in Hasidic Judaism.   The old man in ancient Israel had enormous power as leader  and problem-solver through dreams and visions. 

The sage reveals our potentialswhats more important than that? For without models we're  lost in this world.   Is it any wonder the degradation of morals, literacy and familiesthe utter hopelessness, drug addiction, divorces, fatherless homes? 

Society needs the elders to sustain its peak lest youth become freak.  That's why elders always withdrew from life to just think and transmit highest culture.  But now that this is flipped, in wretched idiocy we're  gripped for without elder-input life is crypt  and society has slipped.  

Like King Lear who lost all his power and  fell into wretched  madness, this fairy tale reflects in the west.  Were no longer best, we lack zest, we need therapists (confess), we're stressed without  rest (from useless quests), men leave the nest, people lack manners (pests), they're poorly dressed and insult (called "jest") from whats on their chest,  women solve problems by  enlarging their  breast. It's insane, so much pain--all because elders no longer reign.  

Spiritual eldering--an otherworldly sacred life healing neurosis--is the solution, not todays  boring superficial pollution.   Its the difference between a flamboyant array, and the horror of retirement homes (thinking thats ok).

 Its the contrast between excited anticipation to the very end and the terror of turning thirtythe current trend.   Enter saga-city and ascend, start the revival and mend!

 

   LIFE  STAGES  IS  ESCAPING  CAGES 

 

The Hindus see life as a four-stage spiritual journey:   Brahmacharya:  gaining tools for adult life.  Grihasta: starting families and gaining  wealth.  Vanaprastha:  detaching from family/social identity to pursue the spiritual, and Sannyasa: transcending even limited identification with family, religion, race and nation. 

As wondering world citizens the end is  spiritual self-realization and  selfless service to society.  Without going that far, just detaching from social roles  (the greatest  tolls) enables higher goals--to provide models of sagacious  souls. 

Ageism--as offensive as racismsequesters elders into communities to commiserate together.  Not knowing of the magically fantastic inner journey, retirement is desolate  rather than a happy spiritual vocation while being on vacation.

The successful aging movement  encourages  physical health but leaves out the spiritual altogether:  In trying to reverse or restore youth it just impoverishes the happy journey--and what a pity. Youth should prepare for sagacity by becoming contemplative, artistic, studious, sensitive and gentle.

As we detach God rushes forth to support this sensual soul-searching solitude:  By journeying inward when young, we dont panic when outer props go later--and thank God they do. For now that we are new  past props cant enter the stew. This wonderful culmination must be truefearlessly, and powerfully with God, through-and-through. Does this not thrill you, too?

 

  VOCATION:  BEING  ON  VACATION 

Individuation is a Happy Situation

 

Aging used to be easy but now it's painfully difficult.  Harvesting means:  gathering the fruits of a long life and enjoying them, either from  within or without through respect and  honor.  We are now  sages, shamans, healers, priests  or even  pranksters--seeing humor in all situations. 

Like Buddha, we laugh at everything we see and think--it's  like  going from shabby cotton to mink.    But in youthist cultures  elders are pushed to the brink so here is your  link:  If   elders are respected (not seen as stink) well all  stay in the pink.

 Carl Jung saw sagacity (elder psychology) as individuation: becoming whole and unique. In the afternoon we cant live by mornings programs:  As we were achieving, now we turn inward lest the self  be silenced and slighted by social slots. 

 We wouldnt  grow old if age had no great significance to the race by speaking through dreams, visions and images--so whoever carries youth into old age fails.   You can be ageless with fasting and Gods lemon and oil, but its spirituality which must take over  when energy wanes and friends and family are  lost (lest we waste our time telling tales). 

 Its the  spiritual outlook cureso make the grandkids call you mam, and sir.  And never envy youth (the false lure) for despite the glorified image there is much trouble there (in this evil age impure).  You are much better off here, in the radiant cosmic tour.

 

EIGHT  TURNING  POINTS

  Growth or Stagnation

 

Erikson saw life as eight turning pointseach turning good  or bad  depending on whether we pass or fail (grow or stagnate).  In the final stage of ego integrity vs. despair, if sagacity (completion) is achieved physical decline stops. Like Gandhi who resembled a child when old, wisdom makes us agelessly bold. 

Wisdom says:  "accept your only life as necessary--permitting no substitutions." This should remove all shame, doubt or pout for the very destiny that had to be.  Acceptance without shame makes us handsome, ageless  blueprints of God while shame and guilt makes us aging deformitiesa clod. 

Its not that we get crazy or lazy but that the ageist culture has made our self-esteem about it hazy. Fairy tales give insight about natural human aging as they reflect all life phases:  separating  from parents, struggling for success, making commitments to spouse and career.  These universal archetypes see old age as a time of  transcending the world through self knowledge, not of "getting old". 

This insight made me bold for I had already left the fold but now I saw my journey as gold.  Forget people  (they're  bought and sold)just be happy in God's hold.  At this stage the social world is mold  but to God and true selfhood  say behold in the greatest story ever told.  Your new plan should be:  detach and watch life unfold. 

 Elder fairytales begin with the old man in barren isolation and misery.  Then by miracle he is transformed by the mere acceptance of his losses--of family, friends and fun--while confronting his shadow (the dark side repressed since youth, the things he didnt shun).  In detaching  (society) and facing (self)  he gains emancipated innocence" and  comes together whole, an ageless child on whom God smiled.    

  If in breaking with society you feel lonely just ask God for support (trust Him only, Hes no phony). Instantly, youre in his court provided with fort (its like a resort). Through your problems He'll sort, and not just for sport--in all  storms He's the  port. 

 

 CHURCHISTS  DONT  GO  TO  HEAVEN

Avoid the Leaven

 

Many people in the west dutifully go to church but dont have a relationship with God.  These types can be the meanest because of the cruelty {as in conflict resolution theory described earlier]. These types are going to church for identity, business or social reasons alone yet dont know the Man on the Throne. 

 The conflict between their fake identity (as a church-goer) and their real identityas a lost and dangerous personis temporarily resolved by scapegoating, accusatory or manipulative tactics to those around them. 

This use of churchism for identity happens late in lifewhen they should be relaxing but instead end in strife.  The conflict between a Godly identity but in truth the lost man is cruel and thats the rulethe degree of disparity between real and false determines the intensity of the scapegoat reaction in the lost (the fool, the devils tool). 

You must now disengage from the phony stage and in  old-age get to know Godyoure maker, you adjudicator, your provider, your vindicator and your escort to bliss after becoming the sage. For God has our entire destiny planned, and its not before old age (for many late-bloomer boomers) that they enter their  Success So Grande.

Until that time they were in preparationand that life was bland (before they had command).  Avoid the leaven to look forward to heaven. For the churchists cant help you one bit, not even your best friend.  Only a loving personal relationship with God-Almighty can put you on the mend.

 

THANATOS

  Facing Death Brings Life

 

Knowing this, its  the specter of death  which deepens our appreciation of life so we can  start harvesting: facing death brings joy.   It turns mountains into  bumps  as old grudges we lump  for nothing matters now:  each days the  last rump--the serious becoming silly is Gods final trump.

Anxiety turns to awe and nature comes alive as facing death ends our days in zest and joy.  While before we edited out  reminders of age  through frenetic activity, entertainment, conquests, surgery or obsession with youth now all that energy is released and an energetic ocean flows   through body, mind and nervous system.

My mother dying of cancer started to fast, her resentments and drinking (eating) life had passednow she was having a blast.  The future now irrevocably cast she could just ponder the view without remorse or fear at last.  I remember it so well:  I would give her  guacamole in the morning [that's all she could eat--you might remember that] then she could comfortably  fast and  look at the mountains all dayand that was that. 

She had a difficult lifehad gotten the axebut now she could just relax, having faced the facts.  By finally facing what usually depresses and terrifies we feel lighter, freer and more alive as the shift in attention sees each moment as precious: we accept ourselves without grasping for power, wealth or fame to feel confirmed. 

Then we see the immaturity of youthso uncouth.   Facing death brings humor, for what a relief  transcending the rumor--the boring mundane material world of flesh and games and overnight gained-and-lost fames and flames.  We come in and go out alone, so  everyone is now irrelevanta mere groan, its all been chewed to the bone. 

 

 FREUD  ANNOYED 

Death is the Mystic!

 

Freud saw two instincts driving the human experience:  libido (life) and thanatos (death).  Life is a ceaseless struggle between these two forces: libido surges with vitality seeking pleasure while thanatos longs for silence without striving or conflict.  Libido yearns for sex and creative activity,  thanatos drives for death and no activity. 

But Freuds view ignores the spiritual-mystic triphe sees  thanatos (death) as the bleakest force in youth culture.   Its a serious split  since our bodies know they are dying yet the culture abhors it.  Society loves  libidos achievement yet panics at contraction, silence and inwardness--the domain of thanatos. 

Eldering work--the inner journey--embraces and ennobles the death instinct as  a comfortable happy existence of mere contemplation and relaxation.  Its the  messenger of transcendent love and wisdomthis is God.  But how could a culture hating death and aging ever accept the inward life of the saint and the mystic in saging?  It cannot.  It makes it impossible. 

 

Thanatos is the  silent enlightenment of Hindus in  samahi;  Sufis in fana or Buddhists entering nirvana.  These all seek quiescence to find  uniqueness  and completion.  Quiet  means detachment from the non-selective promiscuous social world to extreme selection in relationships and projects attuned to the true self:  a time to rest and reflect,  to act and decide, to become inspired, a time to create and be very careful in choosing associates (not less careful due to loneliness).

Libido and thanatos are bipolar electrical forces with two settings:  on/off,   life/death, activity/rest.  When young we make a mark on the world, when old  we go inward. Off  brings the completion and contemplation of energetic, attractive, glowing cheekbone-carved older specimens that youth loves, looks up to and likes to emulate. 

The ON is what makes us embarrassing caricaturesbaby Janes bringing ridicule and rejection, plastic surgerys election, the lost affection, a useless antique collection.

 

   DEATH  IS  LIFE,  LIFE  IS  DEATH 

The Shift from Sex to Mentoring

 

Thanatos is the urge to cut it all loose and individuate in lifes second half. When were no longer conquering and expanding but inexorably contracting, self-preoccupation is our duty. We replace quality for quantity,  depth for breadth.  

 Viagra  prevents this joyful inwardness, for in this phase  libido should shift from sex to mentoring and leaving a legacy through writing, creating or  teaching.  We are now passing on fasting wisdom (less is more) not propagating the species (more is more).  

 Libidos instinct is to begin--experience and establish self-in-worldwhile ignoring all meaning and wisdom.  As libido sows seeds, thanatos collects them as fruits to the harvestattracting and arranging  patterns of  lifes  meaning.

What a synchronistic thrill, and to think I actually started this trip at 40  in total solitude (so still).  It was so fascinating and cleansing I shut the world outas I took the new route it lost its clout and that ended the pout (the tormenters were out). 

I became a faster at 33 and that began the mystic trip for me.  Because I entered thanatos early  it meant  completion of lifes work with decades left to enjoy the bounty coming from it (I was expanding hourly).  Now I say to the boomers: 

When thanatos first appears we panic-- exercising to compete with youth, redoubling work to prove our worth, having cosmetic surgery--anything but coming to terms with thanatos and destroying youths idols. 

When mid-life dissatisfaction appears, this is thanatos.  Having no training for it we mistake the cue-to-completion as a call to death but the opposite is true:  Thanatos marks the appearance  of the enlightened self  behind the social persona! 

If we accept it we simply start spending more good time with loved ones, take long walks in nature, play good music and just ponder while looking out the window to the mountain vistas and starlit skies at night. 

As for me, Im looking forwardit ends the fight, solves the blight, means Im finally right, and higher than a kite. Baby-boomers, unite!

 

 THANATOS  IS  NEW  LIFE 

Home Life no Strife

 

The denial of death is a safety valve in youth as  adrenaline triggers a fight-flight escape to save life at all costs,  but it  completely   interferes with eldering when we need to calmly contemplate the  joyful insights of  thanatos.  

Only by facing age as part of this mystical journey can we find wisdom and couragefor in confronting death  we gain a new orientation in life!  Yes, this is the reward for moving towards the Lord.  Purged of myopic self-interest we awake to the splendors of the moment and little things:  flowers, birds, puppies,  friends--we can now serve others. 

Having been liberated  from youth-obsession we take on future-orientation. Nows the time to discount the old image by showing the world our zest, joy, service and deep symbolic meaning to everything. 

 I felt like I walked into a Maxfield Parrish painting or the Wizard of Ozas every magical moment was colored by the past.  This is the stage of coalescence: as everything learned to this point comes together like a jigsaw puzzle.  

 Without being  fear-led Im hitting the nail on the head.  Now free of dread Im attracting the masses  instead.  Im happy to help  for Im being led.  That is mystical elderingits finally being read.  Having faced death, Im ruddy with life (thats red).

Heavenly holy home life  is essential for happy eldering.  Ive learned to adore my solitary cabin life, free of strife.  For only in my own home am I protected from the  ignorance  right outside the door.

LEARN TO STAY HOME!

Inside my cozy cabin encamped in cleverness and creative action I am  free of the silly and mean in this Godless era.  Home life  quiets  ageist fears  for if hooked to the herd ones dignity is smeared.  Stay with your ownthats in your own domain, your home. 

Its  the attraction of  destiny like Rome  for free of panic, renewed   energy  pushes  open the door to the happy latter phase. Im so happy Im half-crazed--look forward and youll  be amazed but if  part of  the herd  youll be hazed for the worlds full of cruel ageist idiots the devil raised!

 

  COMING   TO   TERMS  

WITH   THE   PAST 

 

It took me decades to stop feeling guilty about something I couldnt put my finger onfacing the past was hard as every morning Id awake with a chip on my shoulder (more like a boulder) or extreme guilt (great tumult).  

This is the domain  of eldering which brings such relief and joy.  Its facing death which dissolves the burdenfor who cares now?  Most of the judge-and-jury are dead and besides it was for me Christ was bled (to end this dread).

  I cannot describe the relief of escaping the energy thief, for  proper (traditional) aging is feeling  light and joyous as the past dissolves and the future opens.  Its so bright, Im filled with might. 

But  in order to enter this blissful inner sanctuary  we must review the past in a healthy light, by recontextualizing failures into successes; releasing resentments  and reconnecting to unlived life we sacrificed on the way.

 

   LIFE  REVIEWWHEW 

 

It was the seventies and we all became demoralized to fit the culture--the beginning of our end.  The main task of eldering is to reflect on the wealth of the past (harvesting). Once life review is set off we have a kaleidoscope of  perceptions and revelations like bursts of exhilarated energy (like smelling the  Silos on our uncle's farm when we were five.) 

These are lucid sights, sounds and smells that so enrich experience, for eldering is the  wide-angled receptive mode  (no more active  tunnel-vision) and all the joys of relating to eternity:  The phantasmagoria of our own rich history combined with sun-moon-stars.

Getting older is a relief as we catch the energy thief and dissolve all the scars.  The powerful divine forces were blocked  with youths pursuits but now the flame (of accepted mortality)  opens these fruits  as the  planets and hills are transformed in our eyes.  The era of  cold love is  over: weve met our roots and gone are all disputes.

  

The Realized Elder Gives Spectacular Demonstrations  then Just Gets Better.  Hes closer to God (to the letter) because hes removed the fetter. 

KAREN KELLOC